For many years I searched for love, the search took me through many disappointments and from those experiences I learned so much about myself.
I will share six factors that I think will assist anyone who truly wants to find love.
Let us go on this journey together, so we are taking a bus, and this bus ride will be an hour long. We are going to be open about our lives, we are going to go deep into conversation, the only distraction is the countryside view, so we will pause to look at God’s creation.
What Motivates You
It was always great to see couples going back and forth holding hands and looking happy, for some reason I envied that when I saw it and always wanted that for me. I grew up in a home where it was mostly sad, we hardly did anything as a family but on Saturday nights, sit around the television and watched what my dad wanted to watch, or whatever the program had for us. We only had one channel and that was it. I found the experience boring and wanted more, but that was our family dynamics. Some members of the family were never interested and just went to their rooms and that was it. Sunday was the same routine, so I decided when I was of age, I would find a girlfriend to prevent being bored.
That was never going to direct me in the direction of finding the right one, so if your motivation is not coming from the right place in finding your love, it is going to be an impossible journey.
Be the Best You Can Be
We all hear about how elusive happiness can be, but maybe it is not so difficult to find happiness. Be consistently candid and honest. Make it a point to speak what’s on your mind without fear of judgment. By speaking the truth and being honest, you can support your words with actions that will help you pursue your success. Simply thinking for yourself can make you unforgettable.
Do not live in the past, especially if it is checkered with mostly bad experiences. Learn from them and move on.
Do Not Put Your Life on Hold
Those of us who are in the search for love business is aware of that feeling. We postpone our goals when we meet someone new, we stop the progress of our lives, we think meeting this fascinating person will fill that empty feeling inside.
We do it without even thinking about it, just talking to this new person releases the endomorphs in our body, that project can wait.
What is your Goal?
Start with having a serious conversation with yourself, if you are not able to talk with you then you will not be listening to you and you will be doing what most of us have done all our lives, follow the crowd. There are 7 areas in your life that you are here to master: your spiritual quest, your mind, career, family, financial, social, and physical. If you notice, having a girlfriend/boyfriend and wife/husband is not on that list.
I am a believer in marriages and relationships, however, you will find that if you focus on other things, find love becomes much easier. Family is important, but if you do not have the tools for making a good family then your climb is going to be difficult.
Play your Part
We will notice that when we are in a relationship, sometimes our partners are just not present, the relationship is dull, you just want out of the relationship and there is a common thread with all your relationships? It is just not working.
There is this saying that to have friends you have to first show yourself friendly. That is true to an extent, but sometimes we think we are deserving of a good thing because we are good, we deserve a good relationship because we do everything for our partner, but unfortunately, the world doesn’t respond to us like that. Happiness is not a trade, you do for me because I do for you.
Love honestly, consistently and with kindness and longsuffering, more often than not you will find love. Submitting to each other is a concept that can be learned, click on this click on this link to learn about the 4 ways to be better submissive. The concept that is difficult to navigate is…
Nurture vs Terminate
A nurturing mindset is one where you focus on the things you like about your partner, focusing on the potential of the relationship, and growing the connection with your partner/friend. You focus on building a connection, all the time exploring different concepts and principles.
A terministic mindset, on the other hand, is where you judge someone by what you see, make negative conclusions too soon, impose expectations on how the connection should evolve, and shut it off on the smallest of factors. Here, you evaluate the connection by a preset (usually ridiculous) standard and you are ready to close off anything that doesn’t match what you want.
Finding Your True Love
This approach is a love terminator, it is always going to be difficult in finding your true love with this approach. Unfortunately, many persons are biased by their past experiences and attachment. The good news is we can change that, we can find our true love with a made-up mind.