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6 Signs you have found a good guy

Signs you have found a good guy

You see him at church every weekend, you see him on the bus each day before you go to work, you probably work on the same building. He takes your breath away each time you see him, but you are so over guys, they lie and cheat. What are the signs you have found a good guy? You have a checklist of things you want your man to possess and you are sticking to it this time because in the past you allowed your emotions to take over and got burnt. I maybe a guy, however not that I am asking you to throw away your checklist, no man is going to meet those standards and I have not even seen it.

What I’m going to offer you here is something a little different – a few key items that will help you determine if the guy sitting across from you on a date is a quality man who is capable of a commitment.



What I’m referring to here is “emotional” maturity. You can find out about this rather quickly when you meet a guy simply by observing how he reacts to things and how he treats the people around him. If you’re at a restaurant, for example, and they’re taking a bit longer to get you your table, does he take it in stride, or does he start to lose his temper? Even when people are on their best behaviour, it’s hard to hide long-standing habits, so watch what he does in a variety of situations.

You can also get a good read on his emotional maturity level by seeing how he responds to stress. Does it overwhelm him to the point that he shuts you out? Or is he able to take care of what’s going on and communicate what he needs?



An easy way to find out about this is to ask a man questions about his career. How does he feel about it? Is he excited about his job, or does he seem worn down and unmotivated?

Signs you have found a good guy

Many men, as you probably know, derive a big chunk of their identity from what they do for a living. If a man is creating, producing, or contributing in some way, he’s more likely to feel satisfied in his life. As a result, he’s able to be a better partner…and he’ll have the focus and energy to give what a relationship requires. I am not asking you interrogate him, there are ways in knowing if someone is motivated by what they do or just going through the motion.



Is he in service to things bigger than himself in the world? What is he committed to outside of you?

Whether it’s being part of a sports team, volunteering, or doing something artistic, ask yourself if a man’s interests are in line with your personal values. The fact that he can give of himself to something is a good indication that he’ll be giving inside a relationship, too.



Did you know that the majority of guys who get married had a friend who got married within the last year?

You really can learn so much about a man by who he spends time with. Signs you have found a good guy is not just about the guy, it is about his friends, so ask about them. Does he have mature people around him who share your values and are committed to his growth? Does he keep relationships, and does he care about others? If he has good friendships, he’s going to love telling you about them.



As you may have sadly found out, “single” does not always mean “available.” He could be holding ties to an ex-partner, be so consumed with work that he has no room in his life for someone else, or he’s not really looking for a serious relationship.

The best way to find out? Simply ask him. It’s a lot less scary to do this when you’re just getting to know a guy – and a lot less painful than finding out later.



I’m willing to bet you have a gut feeling that tells you intuitively where a guy’s at with all of the above, but the “connection” you feel might make you think, “Well, yeah, but that’s okay. He makes me feel great right now.” Well, right now he does. But what happens after you’ve invested your heart and your time in him only to finally realize that he simply can’t meet what you need? Signs you have found a good guy is only that, signs. A woman’s intuition is her most powerful tool, if you learn how to develop that gift and not be distracted by his car, haircut, that trimmed suit, the smell of his cologne, his white teeth, the way he takes care of himself, his infectious laughter, his shiny shoes, his profile—Chief Engineer, Jamaica Public Service Company Limited, Which brings me to…

The best qualifier if you want a great relationship is communicating your own needs and desires. It’s not your job to get into his head when you meet a man. Signs you have found a good guy is mostly based on communication. So communicating your needs is the most powerful qualifier, as well as continuing to respect yourself so that a man respects those needs, listens to them, and understands you.

Signs you have found a good guy

An easy way to practice this – and you can say it in a casual way, is: “I know I need to be in a relationship where…” And then say what’s important to you, whether it’s exclusivity, or a relationship that is moving toward commitment. Men respond very well to this. This isn’t being needy or throwing down the gauntlet. You’re just stating your needs. The reason this is such a powerful qualifier is that you’ll get to see how a man responds to this – if he even understands and cares what you’re talking about.

When you communicate your needs rather than try to fit into his, YOU become the creator of your love life rather than sitting back and passively try to read his mind. And the man who respects you for it is a quality man.

There are critical moments that define your relationship with a man, from the moment you meet him all the way through commitment – and they can either break you apart or bring you even closer together. To learn more about how to interact with a man you can respond to this blog, make your comments, ask questions if you must and I will respond, and thanks for taking the time to read to the end.

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