People come together for various reasons, in our minds, we have an expectation and we for some reason when we meet someone we assume they want the same things we do and so we start the journey of building firm relations.
Every marriage is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. Part of what defines a healthy union is sharing a common goal for exactly what you want the marriage to be and where you want it to go. And that’s something you’ll only know by talking deeply and honestly with your partner. However, there are also some characteristics that most healthy relationships have in common. Knowing these basic principles can help keep your marriage meaningful, fulfilling and exciting whatever goals you’re working towards or challenges you’re facing together.
1. Emotional Connection.
Emotional compatibility is now becoming an essential part of what makes healthy relations. That person in your life that gets you, understands you and accepts you for who you are. There are some basic characteristics that help the union to flourish and, when you know these characteristics and you stay solid with the rules, it is almost full proof that the partnership will go in a positive direction.
Everyone has a time in life when they feel low. This is when being with your partner makes you stronger. When someone believes in you, when someone motivates you, inspires you, strengthens you, then you realize what being in a union really means. It means being strong together, living as a team. If you are not experiencing this then clearly you are not going in a healthy direction and you may have to consider being with someone else.
3. Dealing with Conflict
This is the area that most of us struggle. There are couples who understand how to regulate their intonation when they fight, there are some who raise their voices, but the important factor is to realize that conflict is inevitable in any relations and you should never be afraid of having an argument. It is possible to share your truth in love. I study the bible every day and the examples of consistency are what I realize is the key to a healthy relationship. You need to feel safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or insisting on being right.
5. Your needs, Their Needs
It is not possible that any one person is going to fulfil all your needs and visa versa, so let us keep it real. It is important that you have outside connections and friendships. To stimulate and enrich your romantic partnership, it’s important to sustain your own identity outside of the relationship, preserve connections with family and friends, and maintain your hobbies and interests. This is a sure way of contributing positively to a healthy union.
6. Being Open & Honest
When we meet someone and they display attributes that we like upfront it is easy to fall in love, tone of voice, physical attributes, talented and engaging will certainly contribute to falling in love, where it becomes tricky is staying in love.
Get to know who you are and what you truly want, learn to be a good communicator as it is a key part of any partnership. When both people know what they want from the friendship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, it can increase trust and strengthen the bond between you.
It’s important to recognize that there are ups and downs in every relationship. You won’t always be on the same page. Sometimes one partner may be struggling with an issue that stresses them, such as the death of a close family member. Other events, like job loss or severe health problems, can affect both partners and make it difficult to relate to each other. You might have different ideas about managing finances or raising children. Different people cope with stress differently, and misunderstandings can rapidly turn to frustration and anger.
It is true though that true love can conquer all this, I believe that with all my heart. Stay true to yourself, practice healthy relational habits and enjoy your relationships.