It is going a couple of years in your relationship, something doesn’t feel right, he is not listening, you struggle to connect and most conversations although simple just appears very difficult for one reason or another.
The question you need to ask yourself, Is he a narcissist?
Narcissistic relationships are formed when one or both partners struggle with a narcissistic personality. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is defined by The Mayo Clinic as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.
There are Four dimensions of narcissism as a personality variable have been delineated: leadership/authority, superiority/arrogance, self-absorption/self-admiration, and exploitativeness/entitlement. They have one thing in common, it is almost impossible to form a deep bond with anyone who struggles with any of the four types.
How Does someone become a Narcissist?
Whereas the narcissist was formed by either a lack of boundaries, either through neglect or indulgence by one or more parents, the child of a narcissist has a way of internalizing their own abuse by their narcissistic parent. The child of the narcissist does not lack for boundaries — they got plenty of those.
Can a Narcissist Change?
It’s not that people with NPD can‘t change; it’s that it often threatens their sense of personhood to try. And their failed relationships often confirm, in their minds, that narcissism is the safest way to live. Put another way, narcissists can‘t be narcissistic in a vacuum. Is he a difficult person? Most persons I talk to in my sessions would ask this question especially after falling hard for this person, my advice is before you go in too deep take the time to discover if this person is and if so it is safer to stay away than hang around in trying to change the narcissist.
Is he a narcissist?
The narcissist falls apart when others stop seeing how perfect they are, so they devalue the relationship as a way to cope, often withholding from emotional intimacy, and so someone who is narcissistic can seem incapable of love. Based on the definition of love, it is difficult to perceive if the narcissist can indeed fall in love when dating a narcissist, it will always feel that you have to impress them and most times your self-esteem can be eroded if you hang around this person long enough. It is hard to say if they can love but it is more likely that they struggle with the concept of love.
Is he a narcissist? A great way in discovering a narcissist in the early stages is their method, they memic, so you will hear them say lines like, “You’re my soul mate.” “I’ve never met anyone like you before.” “You understand me so much better than anyone else.” “It’s the fate that we met.” then shortly after they will pick you apart and nothing you do will ever seem right to them, so it is from one extreme to the other. Is he a narcissist? A question we should add to our list of a query when we meet someone of interest