When I was young I often wondered about what is required to get the prettiest girl in the school, when I got older it was how do I find the girl that is compatible with me. This is normally very tricky as sometimes the woman/man we are attracted to are not necessarily the persons we are compatible with, so here are some tips for you to use as it relates to what makes a relationship work.
It is never easy going it alone in a world like this, we need a friend, a committed family member, it is always great when you have someone you love that you can be honest with. When you have a mate you can rely on, it’s easier to take those risks that help you grow. Always be honest with each other about your feelings and needs, and remember that you can tell the truth without being harsh.
Being truly interdependent means being involved with each other in a supportive manner without compromising your values or sacrificing yourself for the relationship. When you find yourself and your partner has done the same, a relationship is sure to succeed when it is not driven by codependency. Let your role in the relationship be more supportive and less trying to change each other into giving and doing more.
Have fun together.
Whether you are young in your relationship or you have been going for a while, it is still great when you can see the humorous side of life, then take that into your relationship. Every time you do something to make your partner smile, it generates chemicals like oxytocin, sometimes called the “cuddle hormone,” in both of your brains, which makes you feel closer. Sure you may hold back because you do not get that from your partner, but let is start with you and be patient, sometimes the ride will start a little bumpy, but it gets better with time.
Being able to share the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects of your life without feeling judged or devalued is what good communication is all about. This is difficult for couples especially if they find it difficult to express themselves when there is a feeling of displacement and ambivalence. You are not mind readers, so talking it over, even when it hurts will make it better.
Choosing to be positive
Choosing to be positive is one of the most challenging things about relationships, especially if you come from a background of failed relationships. Being positive may be the key to keeping harmony. You can control your behaviours and even your moods when necessary, and having a loving partner who is willing to be there for you, even when you are struggling, can’t help but make your relationship more positive.
Little things like saying thank you, or thank you for being you, should be celebrated in a relationship. Too often we take the little things for granted and complain about the other things, it is difficult for a relationship to survive when we can only see the things that are not working. Look for every opportunity to show your partner that you are receiving your love’s positive energy and responding appropriately.
Accepting each other.
We all need to learn how to accept each other and our circumstances, so we can move forward in a way that enhances our lives and relationships. Do the introspection and see how your life is, it is difficult to expect your partner to accept you when you are not accepting of yourself and your position in life, but always remember, no matter how flawed you think you are, there is someone who is going to love for you who you are and them you.
Ways in Feeling Complete
You deserve to be loved just the way you are, it is however going to take some work. No relationship is perfect, and although we would like to think so because we are flawed human beings then, in reality, we should accept that when two persons come together some inevitables will be needed in growing together in love. Make the effort you both deserve it. For your relationship to be successful, ways in feeling complete are going to need the care and consistency of two mature individuals, being compatible in some keys areas helps, but in my experience, reframing your mindset works brilliantly.