When a marriage is in trouble, people tend to see their Marriage as a mistake rather than seeing the mistakes they are making in their marriage. At this point, they regret marrying their wife or husband, begin to think of a new partner, imagine marrying their ex or fantasizing about marriage without issues.
Some even divorce or remarry and later wish they had remained with their first Spouse, as they find greater trouble in the new spouse. This is because the first marriage was not a mistake, and the mistake has not been discovered yet.
Be Content In All Things
So you can remarry as many times as you like, you will still experience problems in marriage until you discover the mistakes you are making in your marriage and correct them. So divorce or separation is not a solution to consider when you are having problems with your marriage. When your car has a flat tyre, you do not abandon it but repair the tyre and move on.
When we have a headache, no matter how excruciating, we do not cut off the head but take care of the headache. When a bulb blows out in the room, we do not change the room or the house; we replace the bulb and light up the room. When we have challenges at work, we do not refuse to work; we go there to solve problems.
Changing Your Partner
So when the marriage has an issue, we don’t have to try to change the spouse instead of changing the attitude that creates the problem. Most times, when we see some couples enjoying their marriages and enjoying each other to the fullest, we admire and cherish them, but the opposite is seen in our own marriage. The reason is that some people have worked on their marriage by paying the necessary price, which is why they enjoy the fruits of their labour. It is said, “The way you make your bed is the way you will lie on it”.
Your marriage is as good or as sweet as you make it. Because of the negative things they see in their marriage, some couples accuse each other of being responsible. They point accusing fingers at each other for being responsible. Some even say many bad things about their spouse, calling him or her names; some think that marrying that man or that woman was a mistake.
It is not so, your marriage was not a mistake, but you are the mistake. Your habit is a mistake. Your character is the mistake. Your manner, anger, unforgiveness, laziness, lack of love, lack of affection, lack of attention, impatience, bitterness, selfishness, ignorance, stinginess, not being considerate, infidelity and lovelessness are the mistakes.
MARRIAGE A MISTAKE
Talking about bitterness. Some still dream of a marriage with their ex seeing your spouse as a stumbling block. Wake up and smell the coffee. Be content with your spouse. That behaviour is your mistake. So get up now and build your marriage because it is not a mistake. Divorce or separation is never an option. Be kind in your language, be humble in your manner, appreciate your character and be lovely in your attitude. Amend your ways and decisions. Give your spouse a stress-free life. GOD BLESS YOU.
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