Many years ago when I was a kid I was asked, when you grow up what do you want to be in life?
I had no answer for the question and my grandfather was almost frustrated trying to explain to me what it meant to be successful, try as he may, I left the conversation more confused than enlightened. I was always a visual person and so I would look around me at the persons who were closest to being my examples, my parents, teachers, influential church members and for some reason, I was not inspired by anything that they were doing, I was lost!
If you are feeling lost after many years of trying to to find the meaning of your life then join the club.
Your road map for success is hiding somewhere inside, only you can define your success so here goes.
Belief – Whether your motivation is intrinsic or extrinsic you need to have the faith that the direction you are headed in the right direction. It was we can call absolute belief, nothing or no one is going to change your mind from what you know to be true about the road you are travelling on, that is your road, call the name of the street your name, but you own it as you move forward.
Visualize – Can you see it, can you smell it and can you taste it.
Visualization involves creating images, whether it be in your mind or physically creating them, which show your goals and dreams you have for your life. You can visualize by creating vision boards (where you physically have the pictures in front of you) or just visualizing in your mind what you want in your life. Visualization helps you to find, manifest and focus on your goals and aspirations. Once you have the images and visions in mind, you can also start to feel the emotions you have for them too. This can help to motivate you and keep you reaching for these goals.
Purpose – Your life purpose consists of the central motivating aims of your life—the reasons you get up in the morning. Purpose can guide life decisions, influence behaviour, shape goals, offer a sense of direction and create meaning. For some people, the purpose is connected to vocation—meaningful, satisfying work. So far the things mentioned are not about having money or not, it is reframing your mind in how to be disciplined and that is the hard part.
Commit – What are the things that will help you in reaching your dreams, gather those things and stay the course,
Achieving even the simplest of goals requires us to learn the meaning of commitment. Throughout our life, we are reminded of commitment, whether it’s related to personal or business goals, and we realize that without committing, we can’t achieve anything.
When you think about it, everything you ever achieved sprouted from a commitment you made; whether it’s your children, your degree, your job, or even your house. Learning how to commit is not simply about making commitments, however, it’s about keeping those commitments in the face of foreseen and unforeseen hurdles.
Stay focused – How can you be focused with all the chaos around you, a nagging partner, no money in the bank, debtors calling for their money, always struggling to make the ends meet, your best days are behind you. Create a vision board, a mind movie, or some system that serves as a constant reminder of what you are working toward. The “why” behind the goal is crucial as it will serve as a motivator.
Plan of Action – This is where most of us struggle, so to make it easy, go on to the internet, type up an action plan, look at a few and see if any relate to you then adopt and tweak if you have to. It may feel like maize at first, but do it and do it again. Execute and see how it feels, and prepare to work at this, failure is not an option. Just click here and view a free sample of how to develop an action plan for your life.
Accountability – You need to hold yourself accountable, and it is no indictment on you if you wake up one morning and you ask yourself is it really worth it? The temptation is going to be there in throwing up your hands, so you will need a coach, someone you can go to for help when it is time for motivation.
Look it over – For the first couple of months, you will review your goals and tweak to your comfort, make it part of your day to review your goals and take action. This keeps your goals alive and top of mind. It’s a good time to convert the overall plan into discrete action steps that you can take throughout the week. It will also help you be aware if one goal feels stuck and you are overcompensating on another goal.
I am talking to you, yes you! It can be done that is your time. If you can stick to these simple method, chances are you can reach your goal and if you can reach one that is the beginning in reaching the other goals. Some days will be easier than others but if you keep focused on your goals you will be amazed at the progress you will make. Remember, almost everything begins as a thought. You can be what you imagine if you follow these simple steps.
Dedicated to my client and my little friend Raiven.